Real Life’s Adventures in Living: Quieting the External and Internal Noise – Allowing Us to Re-Awaken to Our Bodies Messages for Healing – Part II with Guest Amy Stein | EP 042

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:00:06

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Dr. Judith Holder: 00:01:00

Hi, I'm back. I'm back with Amy Stein, we were having a delightful conversation, talking about quieting the external and internal noise allowing us to reawaken to our body's messages for healing. And this brought to my mind that the body is a vehicle for the soul and supporting the soul's growth and development. And we need to be able to be attuned to what our body in this healing process and what the things it needs in order for that body and our body to be a worthy vehicle for our soul. So this is part two, and we're here to talk about how the body can at times become numb, or we don't listen to it. Or we will sometimes not even hear or recognize the body and what is needing at the time that these sensations that are going on with us. And in the process, for example, becoming numb and not listening. Because we then the body doesn't feel heard at all, then it may go into different stages of numbing as I was saying earlier, also, we may feel more disconnected from our body. So we don't know how to read the signs. And we don't know how to listen to our bodies. And so we have to begin to get aware that in the listening process is also the healing process. And so if you have felt something, and you know that you're not sure what it means, well, it's similar to an Atmos with the soul. That the soul you don't know what it means. So you just go move forward, and we end up for the soul, it becomes invisible. So we don't recognize it, we don't pay attention to it. And so that noise that is going internally, externally, may become louder, and really snuffed out the force of the soul. And create some confusion about why we're feeling so disconnected. And even at a societal level, why there's so much disconnection and confusion. Because we haven't taken the time to the lesson be heard, as Amy said in the first segment, that we all will need to learn to get more in tune with because we live in such a busy society and so many things to do and some many things that act as distractions for us, that inadvertently have an impact not just on our body, but on our soul as well. So I would like to Amy to continue to pick up from where we left off in our conversation and talking more about this whole aspect of needing to have greater to mid to what's taken place in our body. And so we were talking about energy medicine, and what that was, and but we're talking about in this segment, how to become more intuitive to met and listening and how energetic medicine helps us in that process.

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:04:14

Wonder that achievement is you practice it naturally energy medicine in some ways, if you were to, to when you need to go to sleep, what type of nutrition that you do need, that you can be able to clearly distinguish between what is junk that the body is taking in? And what is the natural elements that the body really needs to take in. It's like a dog when a dog is sick, it knows what it needs and they will go eat dirt. But we're saying oh no, you shouldn't be eating dirt you pull the dog away, but it's using that dirt to help itself to heal. The dog is speaking German and we speak English. So we say that Germans wrong. And it may not be the case at all.

Amy Stein: 00:04:54

Right and the thing is, is so animals have they respect the innate intelligence, you know, even when trauma if you want if my dog gets she chases the groundhog, to keep it out of the garden, but if she quarters the groundhog, she gets a little nervous because that thing's hissing at her and has nails and talons, right. So when I pull her away, or she gets away, she'll shake it off. That's her body's way of processing it. Because we all have that in the mammal kingdom, the bodies designed to heal and to process we get in the way of that as humans, we let our mind say, oh, no, you don't need to deal with that it's over. Now it's fine. It doesn't get processed to become stuck energy in the body, where the dog, the animals in the wild, the cats, they all knew how to do that. It's just they don't question it, they just do it. Because that's what they know to do. Right? They know to eat the grass or the mud, because there's microbes in it, there's positive bacteria, they're going to make them throw up, they're going to feel better. So they don't, don't get stuck in that disconnection with the mind and body. They're connected all the time. And they're grounded all the time, because they're always barefoot on the ground, right? So they're very connected, like friends of mine who ride horses, they're very grounded people, because they are so grounded from being on that majestic animal all the time that that life doesn't affect them the same way that people that don't ride horses. So it's been, again, it's bringing back that connection to the mind, body and spirit but also to Mother Earth. And that there's so much wisdom there that if you stop to look around and recreate what exists, rather than choosing to abuse it and pollute it and disconnect from it. There'll be surprised amazed that the changes that will happen in your own life, right? Like if you visually step away from the screen, you go outside, you take five deep breaths, you listen to the birds, you see the trees that are budding out, you see the daffodils popping up, like an amazement, right, expressing gratitude, gratitude for the body, for all the processes, it runs without you having to tell it to do it. It just does it automatically. You know, it's but it's struggling, like we're all struggling we live in this very toxic world, the body was not designed to handle as many toxins as we're currently exposed to. And the electronics and technology poses a whole nother level of toxins. And so even if you're not highly sensitive, and you don't have the trait, like I do that 20 To 30% population has, I can guarantee your body is feeling it, you're just not attuned to it. But you're you can become attuned to it. It takes takes practice, it takes you know, again dialoguing with the body and feeling what what the body is trying to tell you. And so even if it's talking a different language, there are ways that you can reconnect back to the body, that are free, that are natural that you don't have to go to someone else to do like you can just take, like I said, do some deep breath where you can do some movement, you can dance, you can swim, you can go into a bathtub, a shower, I get a lot of ideas. When I'm in water, you can journal, you know, you you can sing you. Yeah, I mean, there's so many different things that you can do on your own. Whenever it feels good to you, whenever you feel called to do it, right, like any sort of movement to just allow the energy to be processed. If you get into your almost kind of a car accident, pull over the side road, allow your body to shake, allow your body to process allow the emotions to come through. We're taught to hold everything in and it actually creates more problems. And I invite you that the next time something comes up, it will it will be today I guarantee you, you will be triggered by something because you're human, to just sit with it, and be curious about it, rather than pushing it down and trying to numb out. I invite you to try to practice. You don't know how but I'm willing to try. What is this trying to tell me? Why am I feeling this way? What is really going on here? Like what is the underlying message here? What is the value of this experience? Right? So the value of the experience of me having chaos this morning was I'm not going to do anything the rest of today, my body's like we're done. This is too much for today, you need to take a break after your commitments like enough is enough. And I'm gonna honor that because I know that anything I'll try to do after will just be not good. It won't go it won't go right. And so I've noticed that every time I try to override my body's messages with my mind. My day does not go so well. It just does not work out so well. Because the the wisdom of my body is so much bigger than the wisdom of my mind. Because the heart coherence. You know, they talked about this Heart Math. I don't know if you've talked about this before. But the heart coherence is so much bigger, the energy field of the heart is so much bigger than the energy field of the brain. But again, we give the brain more credence. But the brain is tired, give it a break. It's weird.

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:09:51

Every night we don't really think about the fact that the brain is supposed to actually be a mechanism For the soul expression, and not to be all and be all the brain through the ego persona, is thinking that's where we need to be is materialistically focused. And we can cognitively or logically think about things. But we're not realizing that when that intuition does come up, which is kind of quality of the soul, when he's bringing up the intuition is actually right. It's like driving on or on a row. And and it's how you go, right. And you say, now I'm going to stay on the highway, but go off because it's urges you to go off the highway. And then you realize, because you stayed on the highway, it's a bad accident is three hours. Yeah, you're waiting in traffic to somewhere you need to be an hour ago, there is, you know, all that you're talking about is really fabulous. And, yes, HeartMath is another place that you can go online. And I think you've it sounds like you've taking some of their courses, and I've taken their course as well in terms of hard coherency. And that's a wonderful thing to be aware of, to have that to men, and that on the same it ties right into healing, medicine, and the energetic medicine that happens when you're in more in coherence with oneself. The other thing I wanted to make a mention of that you said that really is run on target that ties into the soul is obedience, being obedient to what you need, and when you need it. And that obedience is us the quality of the soul wants you to be. And that's why it's prompting us saying, Please do this. Because the more obedient we are, the more to it we have, the more to met Nihan, the more connection we become and have with our higher self, the I Am Presence, the God's source, the creator, whatever one wishes, Mother Nature, whatever one wishes to call that becomes really important for our own soul evolution and growth and advancement. Otherwise, we continue to be just disconnected and not happy and feeling fragmented. Because you know what, if you're living in this world, you've got to anchor into something greater than yourself. Because otherwise it's going to let you blow to the right blow to the left, up and down and all around. Like the leaf, you want to be the roots of that tree and not the leaf.

Amy Stein: 00:12:09

Absolutely. And it's to me, it's more about respecting right, respecting what my body needs. So I'm kind of regimented with what, you know, if people if I tell people exactly what I did every day, that's really regimented. But that's what my body needs for me to be able to do what I do. So in order for me to hold space for other people, in order for me to tell my story and give these interviews, there's a regimen and a routine that I need to follow. And so there's nothing wrong with that. You got to do what's best for you. Like, you need to stop taking the yellow brick road that everyone else takes, like, I'm like, it's okay to get off the yellow brick road. It's okay to choose which path is best for you. And of course, you're not going to know it right away. Like, you know, I can speak here and Dr. Dre because we've been doing this for years, right? Like it took me I'm in year 12 or 13 of this journey. And I will be in it until the day I leave this physical body because this is what my soul signed up for. Right like so I hate to break it to you all pick this. No, like, it's taking responsibility for the choices that your soul made. Like there was lessons that you signed up to learn on this journey. And as much as that's a hard hack to swallow sometimes like, oh, I chose this, you know, trauma for me, I chose this physical ailments for myself. If you can, again, be curious. And look at what what can be right about this? What could I be learning? How can I? How can I change my perspective? How could I advance my knowledge on this? How can I grow as a soul as a person so that I can then share my message with other people and let them know they're not alone? Let them know that I see them and I hear them and I believe them. We all go through something right? Like you don't get out of life on skates. Yeah, everyone experiences something. I remember Robin Roberts when she was first dealing with cancer, she she was something like, you know, we all we all have something. We all go through something. We all have something and it's accepting that. Like, we all have something to deal with. Right? Like, you don't know what people are dealing with until they tell you so their life me appeared certainly on the outside like it looked like I had everything. I had a house I had a husband I had a great job. I was not happy and I was physically very, very sick. But it looks like I had everything. But I didn't because I was not connected to my to my needs to my body's needs to my spirits needs to my emotional and energetic needs. So we want to think that this is easy. And I'm here to tell you unfortunately it's not. The healing is really hard and uncovering your soul's purpose can be hard to reconnecting back to yourself can be hard to but it is really worthwhile. And it and I would totally go through my experience all over again. Because I like the person that I am today. Much more than the person I was 12 years ago, and I can live comfortably in my own skin now as a 40 year old woman than I could as a 25 year old woman.

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:15:09

Very good point, you know, sometimes we want to repeat something or because we didn't think we did it, right. But when we look at life, this the experiences that were given, within every any type of Dark Cloud, there's a silver lining, there's the gold lining. And what you've been saying is, look for the silver and the gold. What is it to you, it should be curious, ask the questions. And this is what the soul is asking you to be able to do to, so that when you have that curiosity you're learning, and what you're learning enhances your self development and advancement. So we don't want to go back, we want to continue to move forward in life and the joy of life, and even those difficult parts. Where can you find the joy? Where can you find the laughter? Where can you laugh at yourself sometimes when things happen to you is like, and then so that you can feel that life is abundantly rich, and the things that you're experiencing? And what you're going through any last comments or thoughts to what we've been talking about here?

Amy Stein: 00:16:15

Yeah, I just want to say that it's really important to take small steps, right, and whatever that might look like for you what the next right? Small step is, and to celebrate those small wins, because even in the moment, we're taught not to do that to look to the next step to look to the next thing we need to do. But it's really important in this journey, to really celebrate those small ends, and do take the small steps to not overwhelm yourself to not think like, oh, I can't do this, it's too hard, right. And to wonder, I don't know how, but I'm willing to try to not worry about the house so much we're so consumed with worrying about the how right, just take the first small step, just be willing to try. However, that looks like for you, you know, it looks different for all of us.

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:17:03

True, it's inch by inch, it's a cinch. The more that we're willing to take the small steps with the soul in mind, I would add, the more that he does become more enriching. And then the more that you continue to grow. So where you were, as you were saying, at 25, it's entirely different place now that you're 40 totally different person, but so whatever. But you wouldn't, you don't know that. So there's some faith, you walk by faith, not by sight, knowing that that's going to move you in the right direction. For those who are seekers. For those who are on a spiritual path. They realize that God at the center is anything that we can't handle, me feel like the time we can't handle it. And we certainly may not like it. But how can we take a step back? And because I've heard that thing that you're saying, Amy that's run on target, be curious, ask the question. Allow yourself to feel that pain or experience a difficulty that you're going through, but don't stay there. Now. It's 10 months later, you're still there. No, the soul wants you to pick up and continue to move forward earning, taking that learning with it. As you're moving forward. This has been a delightful conversation,

Amy Stein: 00:18:10

I was just gonna say it's important to remember, you know, be in the moment now, like people talk about that, what does that mean? It's feeling my feet on the floor. It's having this conversation with Dr. Judith Wright, it's not thinking five steps ahead to what I have to do this afternoon, you know, the laundry, the cooking, it's not doing that, because the future is still not there. And the past is over, you only have the now. And so when we when we're stuck in the past, we have more depression, more rumination, and when we're stuck in the futures, it's more anxiety, there's more, you know, and so it's not, it doesn't feel good. But if you can bring yourself back to the present moment, taking a deep breath, feeling my feet on the floor, having this conversation, right, just a feeling what that feels like in that present moment. It seems a lot less overwhelming than when I think of the 75 things on my to do list, right? There's always going to be a to do list in in life and in healing and in soul finding journey like it is always going to be there. But it's not. The point is not to be occupied with that. It's the it's the stain and the now and what is the next small step I can take knowing that the path is still not created. And it can always change and that's okay. Change is not bad. It's okay that it can change that's that's the only constant in life.

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:19:30

And with with Avature saying is being fully present and when you're talking about them feeling yourself on the chair, you feel yourself walking and kind of the Buddhist meditative walking and that awareness is what you're also saying is and allows you not to get overwhelmed. You know not to get overwhelmed by all these things that you have to do and what you need to do in the future and think about being overwhelmed by the past and what you did and what you wished you did better. Like now. So me yeah So here's like, how do we help people to stay fully present and enjoy the now we because our society pushes us so much into the future? You gotta get this and what about that, and don't you need to prepare for this and it's like, I can get prepared when I need to. But it doesn't have to be overwhelming to me to do so.

Amy Stein: 00:20:19

Right, and that's quieting the noise, right? By the way, that's the internal voice of all the shitting you should do the expectations or judgments or that someone else telling you what it's supposed to look like, you know, my journey is different than Dr. Judas journey has been, and it's been different than your journey will be. And that's okay. That's the way it's supposed to be. It's not supposed to look a certain way. And so the more you can get comfortable with honoring your own inner knowing your own inner voice, your own soul's purpose, rather than what someone else is telling you what to do, or what it's supposed to look like, the easier the journey will feel. Because you'll be you will no longer be cognitive dissonance, right, you will no longer be disconnected, you will be aligned with your soul's purpose, you will be aligned with the path that you sign up for it to journey.

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:21:07

Yes, and part of that alignment is, is having the wonder of being wonderfully made. And knowing that you don't have to know it all. You do your best in the higher force via Mother Nature, or be it God or creator, I Am Presence, they help and serve and help you to do the rest. But we've got to begin somewhere in quality of being aware of the internal and external noises that are going on how to be quiet them so we can be more fully present. How may they reach out to you if they wanted to reach out to you any.

Amy Stein: 00:21:47

So I've included an ebook. We've touched on some of the things in the eBook about five ways for total body healing, whole body healing. And they're really easy tips that you can do anywhere. Anytime they're free, you don't have anyone that you need to call to do it. They can also go to my website, Mind Body Spirit breath.com. And they can check out what that looks like when I work one on one with people. And when if it's a good fit, you know, we can have a chat and see if my approach resonates with what they want to do right now.

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:22:20

And their next steps and their soul evolution and growth into it as well. Yes. Well, thank you. Thank you so much. And I enjoyed the opportunity to have this conversation with you.

Amy Stein: 00:22:31

Thank you.

Dr. Judith Holder: 00:22:32

Well, seekers bye for now. Again, this is Amy Stein, and she's giving you her information below as well to get in contact with her if you would like to do so. Have a great rest of your day or evening or morning wherever you may be. Take care. Bye.